Emotions.

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Women all do this subconsciously, when men hurt them, ignore them, and so on. But you're only adding to the extra mess.

How can I heal my painful emotions?

* Heal them and never let them allowed back. Burn the emotions so that there is no way this memories and emotions can come back. (This take not just practice mentally, but it will take time and lots of hard effort).

* Turn Failure Into Something Positive.

*Make Sure the guilt you're feeling remains a USEFUL
Emotion.

* Use Self-Affirmations if you have low self-esteem.
Say: I am good enough. I am giving and receiving love. I am friendly. Say this every morning that you wake up.

* Don't allow your hurt emotions to push you away. This is very dangerous, because now the both of you are doing it. Now you're pulling back, and so is your partner.
Now you're acting like co-workers, or roommates, or the passing neighbors that don't like each other but have to pass one another. This will destroy your relationship. If you're doing this because your partner is, then it is time to look at him/her and say: " I love you". If you get more feelings of anger or lose all anger and want to cry...this is a very good thing! This means that you caught your emotions and recognised them. Remember above I meantioned: "USEFUL GUILT EMOTIONS"?.
THIS came from the tears, not the added anger you forced into yourself and your relationship.

* Walls or whatever you would like to call them:
As humans we protect ourselves when we get hurt wether physically OR emotionally or mentally.
But this will destroy any relationship, so don't do it. Instead take the hurt, and turn it into something as a positive learning experience.

(Do What I call: Pollyanna glad game).

Never heard of that before? Well let me explain the situation & the move.

Pollyanna explains “the glad game” that her father taught her before he died. He believed that no matter what happens, there’s always something to be glad about. One should always hunt for the positive aspects in seemingly bad experiences.

The glad game originated one Christmas when Pollyanna, who was hoping for a doll, received only a pair of crutches. Making the game up on the spot, Pollyanna’s father taught her to look at the good side of things — in this case, to be glad about the crutches because “we didn’t need to use them!”

With this philosophy, and her own sunny personality and sincere, sympathetic soul, Pollyanna brings so much gladness to her aunt’s dispirited town that she transforms it into a pleasant place to live. The glad game shields her from her aunt’s stern attitude: when Aunt Polly puts her in an ugly attic room with no pictures, rugs or mirrors, she is glad for it. If she had a nice bedroom, she probably wouldn’t notice the beautiful trees outside her window. Had her aunt given her a mirror, she would have to look at her freckles. When her aunt tries to punish Pollyanna for being late to dinner by sentencing her to a meal of bread and milk in the kitchen with the servant, she thanks her rapturously because she likes bread and milk, and she likes the servant.

Pollyanna plays the game with others too. When a man breaks his leg walking down the street, Pollyanna reminds him that he should feel glad that he only broke one leg. She tells the gardener who is complaining about his bent back that he should feel glad about it; after all, he does not have to stoop as far to do his weeding because he’s already part way there. Her aunt, too — finding herself helpless before Pollyanna’s buoyant refusal to be downcast — gradually begins to thaw, although she resists the glad game longer than anyone else.

* And remember thoughts are energy and energy creates.

* Remember that YOU love her/him. 

* Remember treat others as you'd like to be treated. 

* Remember to live in the now, and not in the pasts. If it was last week...let it go it is now in the past just like looking in your rear view mirror watching the semi truck getting further away until it is no longer there. 

Now is the time for you to take your emotions into your own hands and start taking a positive direction with them. Destroy the walls you built, and walk through like a beast of love!