Several outside factors can wreak havoc on your menstrual cycle. Stress, for example, can delay your period. Malnutrition can affect it, too. Your cycle can fluctuate if you drink too much caffeine or don’t eat enough food.
Sudden lifestyle changes, such as intense exercise or working the overnight shift on your job, can also cause your period to be irregular.
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Women all do this subconsciously, when men hurt them, ignore them, and so on. But you're only adding to the extra mess.
How can I heal my painful emotions?
* Heal them and never let them allowed back. Burn the emotions so that there is no way this memories and emotions can come back. (This take not just practice mentally, but it will take time and lots of hard effort).
* Turn Failure Into Something Positive.
*Make Sure the guilt you're feeling remains a USEFUL
Emotion.
* Use Self-Affirmations if you have low self-esteem.
Say: I am good enough. I am giving and receiving love. I am friendly. Say this every morning that you wake up.
* Don't allow your hurt emotions to push you away. This is very dangerous, because now the both of you are doing it. Now you're pulling back, and so is your partner.
Now you're acting like co-workers, or roommates, or the passing neighbors that don't like each other but have to pass one another. This will destroy your relationship. If you're doing this because your partner is, then it is time to look at him/her and say: " I love you". If you get more feelings of anger or lose all anger and want to cry...this is a very good thing! This means that you caught your emotions and recognised them. Remember above I meantioned: "USEFUL GUILT EMOTIONS"?.
THIS came from the tears, not the added anger you forced into yourself and your relationship.
* Walls or whatever you would like to call them:
As humans we protect ourselves when we get hurt wether physically OR emotionally or mentally.
But this will destroy any relationship, so don't do it. Instead take the hurt, and turn it into something as a positive learning experience.
(Do What I call: Pollyanna glad game).
Never heard of that before? Well let me explain the situation & the move.
Pollyanna explains “the glad game” that her father taught her before he died. He believed that no matter what happens, there’s always something to be glad about. One should always hunt for the positive aspects in seemingly bad experiences.
The glad game originated one Christmas when Pollyanna, who was hoping for a doll, received only a pair of crutches. Making the game up on the spot, Pollyanna’s father taught her to look at the good side of things — in this case, to be glad about the crutches because “we didn’t need to use them!”
With this philosophy, and her own sunny personality and sincere, sympathetic soul, Pollyanna brings so much gladness to her aunt’s dispirited town that she transforms it into a pleasant place to live. The glad game shields her from her aunt’s stern attitude: when Aunt Polly puts her in an ugly attic room with no pictures, rugs or mirrors, she is glad for it. If she had a nice bedroom, she probably wouldn’t notice the beautiful trees outside her window. Had her aunt given her a mirror, she would have to look at her freckles. When her aunt tries to punish Pollyanna for being late to dinner by sentencing her to a meal of bread and milk in the kitchen with the servant, she thanks her rapturously because she likes bread and milk, and she likes the servant.
Pollyanna plays the game with others too. When a man breaks his leg walking down the street, Pollyanna reminds him that he should feel glad that he only broke one leg. She tells the gardener who is complaining about his bent back that he should feel glad about it; after all, he does not have to stoop as far to do his weeding because he’s already part way there. Her aunt, too — finding herself helpless before Pollyanna’s buoyant refusal to be downcast — gradually begins to thaw, although she resists the glad game longer than anyone else.
* And remember thoughts are energy and energy creates.
* Remember that YOU love her/him.
* Remember treat others as you'd like to be treated.
* Remember to live in the now, and not in the pasts. If it was last week...let it go it is now in the past just like looking in your rear view mirror watching the semi truck getting further away until it is no longer there.
Now is the time for you to take your emotions into your own hands and start taking a positive direction with them. Destroy the walls you built, and walk through like a beast of love!
When your cat scratches stuff they're doing more than filing down their claws. They're leaving their scent.
Cats have scent glands on the pads of their feet, and scratching things is another way cats mark territory.
Cats leave their scent by scratching, peeing, spraying, leaving droppings, rubbing. All kittens and cats have scent glands on their cheeks, paws, flanks so when they do this stuff against anything such a door, furniture, carpet, chair, and so forth, when they do these things even when they do it to you..they are putting their own personal scent on the objects.
Spraying is when a cat backs up to a vertical surface with their tail erect and squirts make liquids or urine. Their tail quivers with shakes as they're spraying both these liquids.
Regular urinating is when they squat to pee, wether on the furniture, the floor, things lying on the floor or any other horizontal surfaces. Cats mark for territory and also for mating. The best solution to stop spraying is to get yours neutered or spayed by five months of age, no later then 13 months of age. Once a cat is in the behavior of marking no matter the type of marking it becomes an un-fixed behavior and the chances of re-correcting this behavior is very low, because now this is now a "fixed behavior" for the cat.
It is important to catch them and correct them while they are younger, and to always be ready to catch any bad behaviors before they become "fixed behaviors in the kitten/cat".
Neutering, on the other hand, solves just about most marking issues with the spraying issues. Furthermore, the longer you wait to get your cat or kitten fixed the greater the risk that the spraying behavior will be ingrained.
Bad behaviors:
Most people play with cats by moving their had or an object wether covered by a blanket or not, just to watch them bounce on it. That might have been cute when the pet was a new born kitten.. but never so much with an adult cat who bares much larger teeth and sharper claws...with this set behavior.
It’s best not to encourage this kind aggressive behavior when the cat is a kitten, because it makes the cat/kitten turn agressive. But even if you do this with your kitten or your cat, well you're stuck with it because you helped create it!
There are ways to teach cats and it is most important to teach them the younger they are. Getting in the windows, on the counter tops, on the table, on or in the dresser & the closet & cabinets, trash cans, bags, and all the other extra stuff both cats and especially kitten love getting into. There is always a way to train a kitten and a cat.
If clapping your hands and saying NO doesn't work, then it's time to go buy a spray bottle and fill it up with some water. WATER ONLY. Everytime the kitten or cat is having bad or un-wanted behavior spray the cat or kitten once and say; NO! If the kitten or cat responds well to this method...well, then go back to clapping your hands while saying NO!
For some cats they get the clue and will stop when you clap your hands and say NO when they see the spray bottle. If your cat or kitten stops listening during this training method, spray the cat or kitten as many times as needed, for the bad behaviors to stop. Most cats or kittens don't like getting wet, so spraying them with water is safe and effective.
Remember training any kind of animal always takes time, dedication, responsibility, and a consistency. You're cat or kitten is no different.
