ADD/ADHD Behaviors

11 ADD/ADHD Behaviors That Could Be Harming Your Marriage.

By Sheri Stritof


ADD/ADHD Behaviors and Consequences That Hurt Marriages

• Irresponsibility and Lack of Follow-Through: When it comes to household chores, your spouse does not follow through or accept any responsibility for the disorganization in your home or for household maintenance. A messy house and who does what and when is a major issue in your marriage.
• Interruptions: Your spouse interrupts you and others a great deal to the point where you think what's the point in trying to have a conversation and you are embarrassed by the apparent rudeness towards your friends and family members.
• Denial: Your spouse won't admit to making a mistake even when it is obvious. Your partner may also deny the ADHD diagnosis.
• Distractedness: When your spouse is inattentive, easily distracted, or impulsive, you feel like climbing a wall and disappearing.
• Nagging: You dislike yourself for nagging, but you don't know what else to do to get your disorganized spouse to finish anything, or put anything away, or keep promises, etc.
• Financial Problems: Your financial situation is precarious because your spouse is not good at handling money, overspends, forgets to pay bills, can't keep a job, and/or won't talk about money problems with you.

• Taking a Parental Role: You often feel more like a parent than an equal partner to your spouse. You find yourself reminding your forgetful spouse about taking medications, meeting appointments, remembering birthdays, completing projects, etc.
• Low-Sex Marriage: Your sexual relationship is less than either of you would like it to be.
• Difficulty Making Decisions: Making decisions or talking about difficult issues with your spouse is nearly impossible.
• Being Ignored: As your spouse retreats into a computer game or other project, you may feel ignored or think that your marriage is in a rut, but your spouse doesn't see your marriage in the same way.
• Uneasiness: Walking on eggshells around your spouse is the only way you find you can keep the peace in your marriage.

 

While these are not all the actions and behaviors associated with AD/HD that can hurt a marriage, they are classic examples. Even though your marriage may be challenged by these behaviors, with proper diagnosis, treatment, and a willingness of both of you to create positive coping strategies, you too can have a successful and joyful marriage.


https://www.verywellmind.com/behaviors-that-could-kill-marriage-2302974