Roller coaster life with ADD/ADHD

BY: Gina Pera 





What do I mean by the term “self-medicating with conflict?”?  Given the country’s partisan rancor, the topic is fresh on my mind.
“Too much fighting” was a top reason for leaving the relationship, according to  ADHD Partner Survey respondents who had divorced,  separated from, or stopped dating their ADHD partner.
Conflict can be unrelenting in relationships affected by undiagnosed, untreated, or otherwise poorly managed ADHD.  The myriad factors include:

• Poor communication created by ADHD-related challenges in listening and remembering
• “Denial” of ADHD symptoms (which often has both physiological and psychological underpinnings)
• A co-existing condition such as conduct disorder or antisocial personality disorder, autistic-spectrum disorder, or even anxiety and Obsessive-compulsive Disorder.

Certainly, ignorance around all these factors fuels the fighting on both sides.



https://adhdrollercoaster.org/adhd-and-relationships/arguments-conflict-as-self-medication/

BY: Gina Pera

What does 50/50 mean in a realtionship?

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By Tonya Ladipo, LCSW, Relational Psychotherapy Topic Expert


It talks about:
Relationship fairness is not about martyrdom or self-sacrifice at all costs. It is about recognizing and respecting your relationship’s needs. Fairness is about the flexibility that is necessary to meet everyone’s needs, including that of the relationship. In order to achieve fairness in your relationship, there are three perspectives that need to be considered.