Wednesday, January 30, 2019

ODD Behaviors In Children


ODD BEHAVIORS,

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By: Mayoclinic




Behavioral treatment of ODD involves learning skills to help build positive family interactions and to manage problematic behaviors. Additional therapy, and possibly medications, may be needed to treat related mental health disorders.


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Signs of ODD:

Generally begin during preschool years. Sometimes ODD may develop later, but almost always before the early teen years. These behaviors cause significant impairment with family, social activities, school and work.
The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), published by the American Psychiatric Association, lists criteria for diagnosing ODD. The DSM-5 criteria include emotional and behavioral symptoms that last at least six months.
Angry and irritable mood:

  • Often and easily loses temper
  • Is frequently touchy and easily annoyed by others
  • Is often angry and resentful
Argumentative and defiant behavior:

  • Often argues with adults or people in authority
  • Often actively defies or refuses to comply with adults' requests or rules
  • Often deliberately annoys or upsets people
  • Often blames others for his or her mistakes or misbehavior
Vindictiveness:
  • Is often spiteful or vindictive
  • Has shown spiteful or vindictive behavior at least twice in the past six months
ODD can vary in severity:
  • Mild. Symptoms occur only in one setting, such as only at home, school, work or with peers.
  • Moderate. Some symptoms occur in at least two settings.
  • Severe. Some symptoms occur in three or more settings.
For some children, symptoms may first be seen only at home, but with time extend to other settings, such as school and with friends.


---Mayoclinic








CLICK HERE TO READ, ODD: What Is Child ODD?
By: Childmind.org

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Children with oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) display extreme resistance to authority, conflict with parents, outbursts of temper and spitefulness with peers. This guide outlines the signs a child might have ODD, how it is diagnosed in children and treatment options.



ODD: What to Look For

Children and adolescents with ODD are very quick to lose their tempers, often disobedient at home or at school, apt to ignore or rebel against rules, quick to blame others for mistakes or misbehavior, and prone to annoy others and be easily annoyed. Within limits, every one of these behaviors is typical in children, but those with ODD have problems containing these impulses, and act out so often that it compromises their ability to get along with others. The extraordinary level of oppositional behavior means children with ODD are sometimes described as having a “reflexive ‘No!’”—they will refuse to cooperate even before they know what is being asked of them. Symptoms of ODD can become apparent as early as pre-school or much later, in adolescence.

-By: Childmind.org





ODD, & what to Look For In Children:

Children and adolescents with ODD are very quick to lose their tempers, often disobedient at home or at school, apt to ignore or rebel against rules, quick to blame others for mistakes or misbehavior, and prone to annoy others and be easily annoyed.

Within limits, every one of these behaviors is typical in children, but those with ODD have problems containing these impulses, and act out so often that it compromises their ability to get along with others.

The extraordinary level of oppositional behavior means children with ODD are sometimes described as having a “reflexive ‘No!’”—they will refuse to cooperate even before they know what is being asked of them. Symptoms of ODD can become apparent as early as pre-school or much later, in adolescence.


-By:
Childmind.org





















https://childmind.org/guide/oppositional-defiant-disorder/









How to Tell If Your Child Has Oppositional Defiant Disorder
By: Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D.





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All kids display defiant behavior from time to time, but it’s possible that your child has a condition called oppositional defiant disorder (ODD). Don’t be intimidated by the term ODD, which may sound ominous and clinical to parents. ODD symptoms include chronic anger, blaming others for mistakes, being touchy, or easily annoyed and vindictive.
To qualify for an ODD diagnosis, your child must do things like talk back, refuse to do chores, use bad language, and say things like “You can’t make me” or “You’re never fair” nearly every day for at least six months. In other words, kids with ODD have oppositional attitudes and behaviors that are more of a pattern than an exception to the rule.

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Disruptive behavior disorders ---ADHD, ODD, and CD: Do They Belong to a Common Psychopathological Spectrum?



ADHD, ODD, and CD

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3477532/







Any disorder can coexist with ADHD, but certain disorders tend to occur more commonly with ADHD.

ADHD may coexist with one or more disorders.

https://chadd.org/about-adhd/coexisting-conditions/


Disruptive behavior disorders, Mood disorders, Learning disorders, Treatment of co-occurring conditions, more.

-CHADD










Behavior Disorders that often co-occur with ADHD

Conduct Disorder (CD)

Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD)

Aggressive behavior



And more. go to the link to learn more.

http://www.helpforadd.com/co-occurring-disorders/




Symptom Checker Childs Mind

Symptom Checker

Are you worried about your child?



https://childmind.org/symptomchecker/

Only children who struggle with inattention and hyperactive or impulsive behaviors around the clock are deemed to have ADHD, and if not dealt with properly the symptoms can continue well into adulthood.

Only children who struggle with inattention and hyperactive or impulsive behaviors around the clock are deemed to have ADHD, and if not dealt with properly the symptoms can continue well into adulthood.


DR MERCOLA


https://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2009/07/09/adhd-childlike-behavior-or-serious-condition.aspx











around-the-clock

                                                                         

Definition of around-the-clock


Lasting 24 hours a day : constant





















ADHD Childlike Behavior. By: Dr Mercola


ADHD Childlike Behavior or Serious Condition?
By Dr Mercola
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IT TALKS ABOUT:


If you have a child who suffers with ADHD or ADD, or are an adult with this challenge, this report will provide you with powerful insights that will help you take control of this problem without expensive or dangerous medications.
 
According to the National Institute on Drug Abuse (NIDA), ADHD is diagnosed in the U.S. in an estimated 8 percent of children aged 4-17, and in about 3 percent to 4.4 percent of adults.
 
The average age of onset is usually just 7 years old, although symptoms may appear in infancy.
 
Of concern is a 2008 study that found the percentage of older children diagnosed with ADHD is rising by about 4 percent each year.
 
Some experts feel the increase could be due to doctors taking a greater interest in the possibility of ADHD in older kids with concentration problems, but I think you’ll find it interesting that this latest trend also coincides with an increased marketing of ADHD drugs to teens and adults!

As you can see, many of these “symptoms” could describe most all children at one time or another. As such, those who display these symptoms at school but not at home or with friends are not considered to have ADHD. Likewise, with children who display symptoms at home but not at school.
 
Only children who struggle with inattention and hyperactive or impulsive behaviors around the clock are deemed to have ADHD, and if not dealt with properly the symptoms can continue well into adulthood.






































https://articles.mercola.com/sites/articles/archive/2009/07/09/adhd-childlike-behavior-or-serious-condition.aspx




 
 

Ghosting and ADD/ADHD


http://www.addforums.com/forums/showthread.php?t=179656
BLOGS about ADD/ADHD partner ghosting them, and the types of ghosting. 




TYPES OF GHOSTING:



Psychology of GhostingBy: Jen Kim click here to read.















I have read many articles saying that others who are also in an ADD/ADHD relationship with their spouse say that their spouse GHOSTS them. It is clear that every Non-ADD/ADHD partner is ghosted in many different kinds of GHOSTING from their ADD/ADHD spouse. 



ADHD And Down syndrome

ADHD and Down syndrome By: Sue Buckley


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What is ADHD:

There are three main sets of symptoms of ADHD described in typically developing children. These are:
• problems with concentrating or paying attention (attention deficit)
• being very active (hyperactivity)
• acting before thinking (impulsivity)
The diagnosis is made by a psychiatrist on the basis of agreed diagnostic criteria which are descriptions of behaviors. There is no blood test or truly objective way of agreeing that a child has ADHD. It is thought to be very common among children, with estimates suggesting 3% to 8% of children may have ADHD in the UK [1] and USA.[2] Boys are about 3 times more likely to have ADHD than girls and some research indicates that there may be a genetic component to the condition.
It is suggested that there are three types of the disorder, the inattentive type, where attention and staying on task is the main problem area, the hyperactive-impulsive type, where the child is very active and often acts without thinking, and the combined type, where the child is inattentive, impulsive and too active.
ADHD is even more difficult to diagnose reliably in children with additional difficulties. In the typical child, a judgement is made as to whether the child is more inattentive, active or impulsive than would be expected for his or her age. In a child with Down syndrome, allowance will also have to be made for developmental delay and speech and language delay.


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References

  1. ADDiss: ADHD Information Services. (2003). Retrieved 20 February, 2006, from http://www.addiss.co.uk/adhd.htm
  2. Center for Disease Control and Prevention. (2005). Mental Health in the United States: Prevalence of Diagnosis and Medication Treatment for Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder - United States, 2003. Morbidity and Mortality Weekly Report. 54(34), 842-847. Retrieved 20 February, 2006, from http://www.cdc.gov/mmwr/preview/mmwrhtml/mm5434a2.htm


    --Sue Buckley






    By: Sue Buckley,

    The next article, written by Ruth Palatnik from Israel, describes the profile of difficulties that her daughter Rina experienced, and which finally led to her being diagnosed as having ADHD as well as Down syndrome.

    This led me to do a search of the literature to see what information there was on this particular dual diagnosis.

    The answer is - very little. We found only 4 articles mentioning either attention difficulties or hyperactivity in individuals with Down syndrome - with widely differing estimates and interpretations of their findings.

    One reason for this will be that a pediatrician or child psychiatrist will be reluctant to make the diagnosis when a child already has a developmental disability. In addition, checklists may overestimate ADHD symptoms if the rater does not take account of the child's level of developmental delay.

    --Sue Buckley










What Clutter Does to Your Brain ADD/ADHD

Love It, Use It, or Lose It




 


 

What is G.A.D in ADD/ADHD Marriage?

GAD is something all Non-ADD/ADHD partners get sooner or later in the relationship, says experts.
This is why us Non-ADD/ADHD spouses connect to each other so great because we understand exactly what each other is dealing with and going through. Lets take a look and see
what WebMD says about GAD. Click HERE to read more on GAD.

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Generalized anxiety disorder (or GAD) is characterized by excessive, exaggerated anxiety and worry about everyday life events with no obvious reasons for worry. People with symptoms of generalized anxiety disorder tend to always expect disaster and can't stop worrying about health, money, family, work, or school. In people with GAD, the worry is often unrealistic or out of proportion for the situation. Daily life becomes a constant state of worry, fear, and dread. Eventually, the anxiety so dominates the person's thinking that it interferes with daily functioning, including work, school, social activities, and relationships
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What Are the Symptoms of GAD?

GAD affects the way a person thinks, but the anxiety can lead to physical symptoms, as well. Symptoms of GAD can include:

  • Excessive, ongoing worry and tension
  • An unrealistic view of problems
  • Restlessness or a feeling of being "edgy"
  • Irritability
  • Muscle tension
  • Headaches
  • Sweating
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Nausea
  • The need to go to the bathroom frequently
  • Tiredness
  • Trouble falling or staying asleep
  • Trembling
  • Being easily startled









  • Melissa Orlov

    Go HERE to read more by Melissa.

    Ways Not To Leave Your ADD/ADHD Spouse:



    WE want you to go and read what she wrote on her page, but here is some of what she talks about:
    Ditto for non-ADHD partners—counting is good.  It’s better to proactively take the time to respond to ADHD symptomatic behaviors with patience and empathy than to fly off the cuff in frustration.
Don’t manage your partner’s medications – unless asked to monitor responses to medication changes.  It is the ADHD partner’s responsibility to remember to take medications and to work with his or her doctor to optimize brand and dose.  Non-ADHD partners really can help, though, in tracking differences when new meds or doses are first tried.  That extra set of eyes can be useful!
Acknowledge that those with ADHD frequently get distracted in conversations.  Set up a simple cue, such as “I just got distracted, can you say that again?” that allows the ADHD partner to fully participate in the conversation without having to “guess” at what he or she missed.
Allow yourselves to grieve if you’ve had a rough past together or your relationship isn't what you expected.  It IS sad that your past was so hard.  But isn’t it great that you now have the tools to create a better, loving future?
Learn to appreciate the present.  Look, every day, for the positive things that have happened to you and spend a little time being thankful for them.  There is a huge body of research that demonstrates that this really helps!  Focusing on the present will also bring non-ADHD partners more in line with their ADHD partners, who tend to live in the present in any case.


-----Melissa Orlov







ADHD and Relationships:

By: Katie Hurley, LCSW
https://www.psycom.net/adhd-and-relationships/


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Understanding the Symptoms of Adult ADHD
The defining feature of ADHD is a persistent pattern or inattention and/or hyperactivity-impulsivity that interfere with functioning (in more than one area) for a period of at least six months. For adults, hyperactivity often manifests as restlessness or wearing others down.




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Symptoms of Adult ADHD that Interfere with Relationships:

The biggest challenge to making the necessary changes to improve your relationship is to understand the symptoms that have the greatest impact on your partner. Once you know how your symptoms influence your behavior with your partner, you can learn how to manage them.

Adult ADHD can be tricky because symptoms vary from person-to-person. These specific symptoms can impact how you relate to your partner:

Inattention: Adults with ADHD can lose focus during conversations, which leaves the partner feeling devalued. Inattention can also lead to mindlessly agreeing to things that you later forget. This can be frustrating and lead to resentment.


AND,



Forgetfulness: Even when adults with ADHD are paying attention, they might still forget what was discussed. This can cause others to see the person as unreliable or incapable.


Impulsivity: This symptom of adult ADHD can lead to frequent interruptions during conversations or blurting out thoughts without considering the feelings of others. This can result in hurt feelings.


Disorganization: Difficulty organizing and/or completing tasks can lead to household chaos. This can cause resentment and frustration for the partner, who might feel like he or she does more of the work at home.


AND,


Explosive temper: Many adults with ADHD have difficulty regulating their emotions. This can result in angry outbursts that leave partners feeling hurt or fearful.
While the adult with ADHD in the relationship is at risk of feeling micromanaged and overwhelmed with criticism, the non-ADHD partner might feel disconnected, lonely, or underappreciated. It’s important to place the focus on how the ADHD symptoms impact the relationship, instead of blaming one another for a breakdown in the bond.

Work on Communication Skills:

Communication often breaks down when one partner has ADHD. More often than not, the behaviors on the surface (i.e. she’s always late for dinner) mask a deeper issue (he feels underappreciated because she never shows up on time.)











https://www.psycom.net/adhd-and-relationships/







Always hot, sensitive to warm tempatures could mean you have these.


If You’re Hot All The Time, It Could Mean You Have One Of These 8 Disorders
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You know how some people are always cold? Others tend to feel hot all the time — no matter the temperature. This has a lot to do with preference, what they like to wear, bodily factors, etc. But did you know that feeling hot all the time can also be a sign of an underlying health concern?
If you're always overheating, getting inexplicably sweaty, or experiencing hot flashes for no apparent reason, it may be worth looking into — simply for the sake of listening to your body, and staying on top of your health.







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https://www.bustle.com/p/if-youre-hot-all-the-time-it-could-mean-you-have-one-of-these-8-disorders-9273429

Cold sweats" refers to sudden sweating that doesn't come from heat or exertion. The medical term for cold sweats is diaphoresisPronounce This. It comes from the body's response to stress, called the fight or flight response. By Rod Brouhard, EMT

Cold sweats" refers to sudden sweating that doesn't come from heat or exertion. The medical term for cold sweats is diaphoresisPronounce This. It comes from the body's response to stress, called the fight or flight response. By Rod Brouhard, EMT













When I am cold for to long, my body sweats like I was tanning in the 80' sun. So I researched this, and found this. If you're like me, this could be helpful to you too. It is from an EMT named Rod.















































https://www.verywellhealth.com/causes-and-treatment-of-cold-sweats-1298949

Attention problems in Down syndrome. ADHD

Medical problems that can look like ADHD

By: University of Iowa Stead Family Children’s Hospital

Hearing and vision problems

In order for a child to pay attention to classroom material, she has to be able to hear and to see it. Both hearing and visual problems are common in children with Down syndrome. Ear infections are overwhelmingly common and, even if treated, can cause hearing loss for weeks. People with Down syndrome have middle ear structural abnormalities that can cause lifetime mild to moderate hearing loss.
Both near- and far-sightedness are common in Down syndrome, as well as cataracts and "lazy eye".
How can we rule out significant hearing and/or visual loss as a cause of attentional problems? Hearing screens should be performed annually in children with Down syndrome. Children with abnormal hearing evaluations should be seen by an ear-nose-throat physician (otolaryngologist) to manage treatable causes of hearing loss.
A child with Down syndrome should be evaluated by an eye doctor during the first year of her life, and yearly thereafter. Some children may need more frequent follow-up depending on their visual diagnosis.


https://uichildrens.org/health-library/attention-problems-down-syndrome-adhd








ADHD Symptom Test for Adults: ADD Checklist

Habitually disorganized? Always running late? Struggling to manage money and relationships? Take this adult ADHD test to learn more about your ADD symptoms.

When your spouse has ADHD there is poor communications. The ADHD adult brain sorts information differently. Your partner experiences the world differently. -By: Melissa Orlov

When your spouse has adult ADHD, it’s easy to misinterpret inattentiveness, disorganization and distractibility as laziness or selfishness.
By:
Melissa Orlov go HERE to read more.





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We had poor communication and there was a lot of anger on my part,” Orlov says. “I was sort of the parent figure and he was my child. He was distracted, and I interpreted that as he didn’t love me.”

Only after George became acquainted with someone who had ADHD – and saw how difficult it was to communicate with that person – did he realize how much his wife had been struggling in the marriage.

They decided to stay together and work on both George’s ADHD and Melissa’s response to it.

Today, their marriage is a happy, loving one, and they recently celebrated their 22nd wedding anniversary, says Orlov, who blogs at ADHDMarriage.com and wrote the book The ADHD Effect on Marriage: Understand and Rebuild Your Relationship in Six Steps (Specialty Press).

“Although I was miserable, my husband and I had a completely normal relationship when one has ADHD and the other doesn’t – and they’re not dealing with the ADHD,” Orlov says.
































https://www.everydayhealth.com/emotional-health/adhd/married-adhd-adult/

ADD/ADHD Behaviors


By Melissa C. Orlov




How the partner with ADHD often feels:
Different. The brain is often racing, and people with ADHD experience the world in a way that others don’t easily understand or relate to.
Overwhelmed, secretly or overtly, by the constant stress caused by ADHD symptoms. Keeping daily life under control takes much more work than others realize. Even if it’s not always apparent, ADHD can make someone feel like they’re struggling to keep their head above water.
Subordinate to their spouses. Their partners spend a good deal of time correcting them or running the show. The corrections make them feel incompetent, and often contribute to a parent-child dynamic. Men can describe these interactions as making them feel emasculated.
Shamed. They often hide a large amount of shame, sometimes compensating with bluster or retreat.
Unloved and unwanted. Constant reminders from spouses, bosses, and others that they should “change,” reinforce that they are unloved as they are.
Afraid to fail again. As their relationships worsen, the potential of punishment for failure increases. But their inconsistencies resulting from ADHD mean that this partner will fail at some point. Anticipating failure results in reluctance to try.
Longing to be accepted. One of the strongest emotional desires of those with ADHD is to be loved as they are, in spite of imperfections.
How the non-ADHD partner often feels:
Unwanted or unloved. The lack of attention is interpreted as lack of interest rather than distraction. One of the most common dreams is to be “cherished,” and to receive the attention from one’s spouse that this implies.
Angry and emotionally blocked. Anger and resentment permeate many interactions with the ADHD spouse. Sometimes this anger is expressed as disconnection. In an effort to control angry interactions, some non-ADHD spouses try to block their feelings by bottling them up inside.
Incredibly stressed out. Non-ADHD spouses often carry the vast proportion of the family responsibilities and can never let their guard down. Life could fall apart at any time because of the ADHD spouse’s inconsistency.
Ignored and offended. To a non-ADHD spouse, it doesn’t make sense that the ADHD spouse doesn’t act on the non-ADHD partner’s experience and advice more often when it’s “clear” what needs to be done.
Exhausted and depleted. The non-ADHD spouse carries too many responsibilities and no amount of effort seems to fix the relationship.
Frustrated. A non-ADHD spouse might feel as if the same issues keep coming back over and over again (a sort of boomerang effect).

By Melissa C. Orlov











Crying, Screaming, and Hiding: All the Ways I Deal with ADHD Shame


I just want to be who I am and not worry about what people think. But when shame rears its ugly head, I don’t always deal with it in a healthy way.


https://www.additudemag.com/dealing-with-shame-adhd-personal-story/














11 ADD/ADHD Behaviors That Could Be Harming Your Marriage  By Sheri Stritof 
CLICK HERE TO READ.







What ADD and ADHD causes to relationships


By: Melissa C. Orlov

How the partner with ADHD often feels:
Different. The brain is often racing, and people with ADHD experience the world in a way that others don’t easily understand or relate to.
Overwhelmed, secretly or overtly, by the constant stress caused by ADHD symptoms. Keeping daily life under control takes much more work than others realize. Even if it’s not always apparent, ADHD can make someone feel like they’re struggling to keep their head above water.
Subordinate to their spouses. Their partners spend a good deal of time correcting them or running the show. The corrections make them feel incompetent, and often contribute to a parent-child dynamic. Men can describe these interactions as making them feel emasculated.
Shamed. They often hide a large amount of shame, sometimes compensating with bluster or retreat.
Unloved and unwanted. Constant reminders from spouses, bosses, and others that they should “change,” reinforce that they are unloved as they are.
Afraid to fail again. As their relationships worsen, the potential of punishment for failure increases. But their inconsistencies resulting from ADHD mean that this partner will fail at some point. Anticipating failure results in reluctance to try.
Longing to be accepted. One of the strongest emotional desires of those with ADHD is to be loved as they are, in spite of imperfections.



By: Melissa C. Orlov





How the non-ADHD partner often feels:
Unwanted or unloved. The lack of attention is interpreted as lack of interest rather than distraction. One of the most common dreams is to be “cherished,” and to receive the attention from one’s spouse that this implies.
Angry and emotionally blocked. Anger and resentment permeate many interactions with the ADHD spouse. Sometimes this anger is expressed as disconnection. In an effort to control angry interactions, some non-ADHD spouses try to block their feelings by bottling them up inside.
Incredibly stressed out. Non-ADHD spouses often carry the vast proportion of the family responsibilities and can never let their guard down. Life could fall apart at any time because of the ADHD spouse’s inconsistency.
Ignored and offended. To a non-ADHD spouse, it doesn’t make sense that the ADHD spouse doesn’t act on the non-ADHD partner’s experience and advice more often when it’s “clear” what needs to be done.
Exhausted and depleted. The non-ADHD spouse carries too many responsibilities and no amount of effort seems to fix the relationship.
Frustrated. A non-ADHD spouse might feel as if the same issues keep coming back over and over again (a sort of boomerang effect).







By: Melissa C. Orlov  Click here to read: How does ADHD or ADD affect relationships?

























































https://www.helpguide.org/articles/add-adhd/adult-adhd-attention-deficit-disorder-and-relationships.htm 

Lawnmower Parents Helicopter Parents.

Lawnmower Parents Helicopter Parents.  By: WeAreTeachers Staff



Click HERE to read what they say about:


Lawnmower parents go to whatever lengths necessary to prevent their child from having to face adversity, struggle, or failure.

Instead of preparing children for challenges, they mow obstacles down so kids won’t experience them in the first place. But in raising children who have experienced minimal struggle, we are not creating a happier generation of kids. We are creating a generation that has no what idea what to do when they actually encounter struggle. A generation who panics or shuts down at the mere idea of failure. A generation for whom failure is far too painful, leaving them with coping mechanisms like addiction, blame, and internalization. The list goes on.

If we eliminate all struggle in children’s younger years, they will not arrive at adulthood magically equipped to deal with failure.

Indeed, childhood is when they learn these skills.
A child who has never had to deal with conflict on their own will not approach the first test they bomb in college and say, “Yikes. I really need to study harder. I’ll reach out to the graduate assistant and see if they know of study groups I can join or other materials I can read to do better on the next one.” Instead, they will very likely respond in one or more of the following ways:
  • Blame the professor
  • Call home and beg their parents to intervene 
  • Have a mental breakdown or make themselves miserable
  • Write nasty reviews online about the professor and their class
  • Begin planning for the inevitable destruction of their college career/future
  • Assume they failed because they’re stupid
  • Collapse in on themselves and give up completely and stop trying




    --WeAreTeachers Staff

Tuesday, January 29, 2019

The Diet For ADD & ADHD

Studies have found that what we put into our bodies is so crucial to our physical health and our mental health, even our behaviors.

You're probable like me and many other out there that hear the sad and pathetic dunce responses like these for example:

But I love putting Splenda into my coffee!

Water is to bland, I'll stick to my soda thank you very much!

But processed foods are cheaper, why not buy it!

I'll live my life eating/drinking what I please even if it gives me cancer, it's my life to live not yours!

If you're one of them, just STOP!
Listen to how you're making yourself sound so ignoramus, stop embarrassing yourself.






Click HERE to read:

Nutritional psychiatry: Your brain on food



 
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Like an expensive car, your brain functions best when it gets only premium fuel. Eating high-quality foods that contain lots of vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants nourishes the brain and protects it from oxidative stress — the “waste” (free radicals) produced when the body uses oxygen, which can damage cells.
Unfortunately, just like an expensive car, your brain can be damaged if you ingest anything other than premium fuel. If substances from “low-premium” fuel (such as what you get from processed or refined foods) get to the brain, it has little ability to get rid of them. Diets high in refined sugars, for example, are harmful to the brain.

In addition to worsening your body’s regulation of insulin, they also promote inflammation and oxidative stress. Multiple studies have found a correlation between a diet high in refined sugars and impaired brain function — and even a worsening of symptoms of mood disorders, such as depression.
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Someone with ADD/ADHD should not have lots of sugars.

Be warned, sugar labels are also being labeled to hide aspartame.

By: Dr. Mercola

 

Aspartame Articles. Go here to read Dr Mercola on aspartame. And go HERE to read more on the danger of aspartame.


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According to researchers and physicians studying the adverse effects of aspartame, the following chronic illnesses can be triggered or worsened by ingesting of aspartame.
-Dr Mercola





ADHD? Stop Feeding Gluten!
-Dr Mercola

Eating gluten-containing grain may wreak havoc on your gut and manifest in symptoms related to your brain, including ADHD symptoms

A gluten-free diet may significantly improve ADHD symptoms



What is gluten?
It's a protein found in wheat grain and part of "gluey" proline and glutamine rich proteins known as prolamines. Prolamines are found in all cereal grains, even rice, corn and oats, but only wheat, and to a lesser extent rye, spelt and einkorn, are associated with the serious neurological and autoimmune reactions often linked to autism spectrum disorder.
Gluten is only found in wheat species. Spelt or einhorn gluten has dramatically lower antigenicity of common wheat (Triticulum aestivum) that is used in bread products. Other cereal grasses have what are known as prolamines (proline-glutamine rich proteins) with rye containing secalin, barley containing horedin, etc, but they have very little cross-reactivity with antigens associated with wheat intolerance.
It has long been known that people with celiac disease are also more likely to suffer from ADHD, another condition that is heavily influenced by dietary habits.

-Dr Mercola

Go here to read more on Are You What You Eat? The Best ADD/ADHD Diet.
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What you eat determines how well your brain functions. Yet many adults with ADHD have horrid diets and eating habits.
We forget to eat. We skip meals. We forget to grocery shop. When hunger catches up with us, we end up eating whatever we can get our hands on. We binge on junk food in an unconscious effort to self-medicate.
All this plays havoc on the ADHD brain.
ADHD guru Dr. Ned Hallowell says, “If you don’t eat properly, you can become distracted, impulsive and restless. You can look like you have ADD even if you don’t!”
Some of my coaching clients even report that eating a more ADHD-friendly diet lets them take less ADHD medication.
Let’s unwrap the mysteries of food and ADHD so you can eat a diet that supports your brain.

The Best ADD/ADHD Diet

Your goal is to give your brain a constant supply of protein and at the same time reduce artificial ingredients. You need: GO here to read more by Dana. https://danarayburn.com/are-you-what-you-eat-the-best-add-adhd-diet/

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ADD & ADHD DIET
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What you should eat:

Protein with every meal. Found in meat, eggs, cheese, yogurt, cottage cheese, nuts, soy and beans; some proteins are high in fat so keep your portions small. Nuts (almonds, walnuts, cashews, etc.), cheese and beef jerky are all easy protein-rich snacks

Fruits and vegetables. Since ADHD adults avoid anything too challenging, select fruits and vegetables that are easy to prepare and eat. I find pre-washed and cut bags of lettuce and carrots are worth the extra expense!


Whole grains
(complex carbohydrates). Think whole wheat: flours, crackers, cereals, and pasta. Brown rice, too. The words ‘whole wheat’ must be on the package’s ingredients list for the product to truly be whole wheat.

A complete vitamin and mineral supplement. Even if you do manage to eat a good diet, numerous studies show our bodies and brains need more vitamins and minerals than we get from our food.

Omega 3 Fatty Acids. Found in supplements, cold-water white fish such as tuna, salmon, and sardines. Also, in flax seeds, chia seeds, walnuts, Brazil nuts, olive and canola oil.

Healthy Fats. The ADHD brain needs healthy fat. Think plant-based fats like avocado, coconut oil, and olive oil.

Watch Out For These ADD/ADHD Diet Enemies

Foods with long ingredient names you can’t pronounce. Some studies show artificial colors, sugar substitutes, and food additives can aggravate ADHD symptoms. The results are inconclusive, but why take a chance?
Sugar, corn syrup, honey, and candy. I’m not going to say NEVER have sugar, but with sugar hidden in many foods, most people eat way too much so avoid it when you can. Especially watch out for high-fructose corn syrup; it’s sugar with a high punch.
Foods containing trans-fatty acids. Listed among the ingredients as “partially hydrogenated oils”, trans-fats are dietary bad-guys that play havoc with your cholesterol. Read the label. Some foods say, ‘0 grams of trans fats’ but still list it in the ingredients.
Watch your alcohol and caffeine intake. Some say to cut them out entirely. I’m a fan of moderation, though. I suggest you notice how your brain and body react. I’ve found too much caffeine makes me jumpy and too much wine makes my brain fuzzy for a couple of days.

Foods containing white flour. W
hite bread, white pasta, and grains (white rice). ADHD can make you crave bread and other carbohydrates; it’s a form of self-medication. There are better ADHD treatments than diving headfirst into a bread basket!
Do you want your brain to work well? Then it’s up to you to give it the fuel it needs to operate at top performance. That means you need to eat healthy foods – an ADHD-friendly diet that supports your brain.


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Why eating organic is good for your health. By: Amy Myers, M.D.


Top Reasons To Eat Organic:


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Our great-great-grandparents subsisted on a completely organic diet.

Modern or conventional farming methods that involve the use of genetically modified organisms (GMOs), synthetic fertilizers, pesticides, and herbicides simply did not exist back then.

Over the last century, our diet and farming practices have changed significantly, however our bodies and our genetics have not.


You can’t expect to fuel your body and achieve optimal health by eating food, laced with toxic chemicals.

So, why settle for getting by when you can thrive?
Here are my top four reasons to eat like your ancestors and adopt an organic diet.


-Amy Myers, M.D.
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https://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-14763/a-doctors-top-4-reasons-to-eat-organic.html

ADD vs. ADHD. ***ADD is an outdated term***



What’s the Difference Between ADHD and ADD?

By: Timothy J. Legg, PhD, CRNP

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This condition is sometimes called attention deficit disorder (ADD), but this is an outdated term. The term was once used to refer to someone who had trouble focusing but was not hyperactive. The American Psychiatric Association released the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, Fifth Edition (DSM-5) in May 2013. The DSM-5 changed the criteria to diagnose someone with ADHD. Keep reading to learn more about the types and symptoms of ADHD.
- Timothy J. Legg, PhD, CRNP






Adult ADHD
Adults with ADHD have typically had the disorder since childhood, but it may not be diagnosed until later in life. An evaluation usually occurs at the prompting of a peer, family member, or co-worker who observes problems at work or in relationships.
Adults can have any of the three subtypes of ADHD. Adult ADHD symptoms can differ from those of children because of the relative maturity of adults, as well as physical differences between adults and children.
- Timothy J. Legg, PhD, CRNP



Severity
The symptoms of ADHD can range from mild to severe, depending on a person’s unique physiology and environment. Some people are mildly inattentive or hyperactive when they perform a task they don’t enjoy, but they have the ability to focus on tasks they like.

Others may experience more severe symptoms. These can affect school, work, and social situations.
Symptoms are often more severe in unstructured group situations than in structured situations with rewards.
For example, a playground is a more unstructured group situation. A classroom may represent a structured and rewards-based environment.

Other conditions, such as depression, anxiety, or a learning disability may worsen symptoms.
Some people report that symptoms go away with age. An adult with ADHD who was hyperactive as a child may find that they’re now able to remain seated or curb some impulsivity.
- Timothy J. Legg, PhD, CRNP 




Determining your type of ADHD puts you one step closer to finding the right treatment. Be sure to discuss all your symptoms with your doctor so you get an accurate diagnosis.
- Timothy J. Legg, PhD, CRNP









Environmental factors for ADHD:

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Banerjee TD1, Middleton F, Faraone SV.However, several biological and environmental factors have also been proposed as risk factors for ADHD, including food additives/diet, lead contamination.

 
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The majority of studies performed to assess genetic risk factors in ADHD have supported a strong familial nature of this disorder. Family studies have identified a 2- to 8-fold increase in the risk for ADHD in parents and siblings of children with ADHD. Various twin and adoption studies have also highlighted the highly genetic nature of ADHD. In fact the mean heritability of ADHD was shown to be 0.77, which is comparable to other neuropsychiatric disorders such as schizophrenia or bipolar disorder.





Although the majority of research shows that Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) is hereditary, a growing body of research suggests that childhood exposure to certain environmental factors may increase the risk and symptoms of ADHD BY: RD





Toxins in pregnancy:
Pregnant women who are exposed to environmental toxins like tobacco, alcohol, and illicit drugs may reduce the activity of vital nerve cells (neurons) which produce neurotransmitters in their baby’s brain. This reduction may increase the risk of having a baby born with ADHD. Along with a healthy diet, pregnant women should be mindful of the environmental factors they’re exposed to during pregnancy to give their baby the best start in life.

Food additives:
Kids who eat a wholesome diet may be far less hyperactive than their peers who consume a highly-processed diet. Health professionals have long debated the link between ADHD and diet; but only recently has the U.S. Food and Drug Administration (FDA) stepped in to evaluate the theory. In 2010, the European Union placed warning labels on food that contained six food dyes and the Food Standards Agency in Great Britain has asked manufacturers to phase out their use of the dyes. In the United States, the FDA is interested in studying Yellow No. 5, which can be found in processed macaroni-and-cheese mixes, some sports drinks, and high-sugar cereals, among other food additives.











https://www.rd.com/health/conditions/can-environmental-factors-cause-adhd/


















Go to https://www.healthline.com/health/adhd/difference-between-add-and-adhd

ADD/ADHD Spouses Say: ADD/ADHD Makes Them Feel Powerless In Life




When Spouses Say ADD/ADHD Makes Them Feel Powerless:

The big thing about ADD and ADHD is that your behavior is not fully controllable, making that individual feel powerless to all in their lives. We scoured the internet for answers and these are the answers we got.


1. My ADD/ADHD has total control over me and I feel like nothing in life is in my control.

2. Q: Is over thinking a symptom of ADD or ADHD? A: No, it could just be anxiety.  -Physiatrist

3. Melissa Orlov writes: What it feels like to have ADHD, Click here to read more.

4. It is like your brain has all the control over your thoughts and actions, even when know they aren't true, your brain makes them true to you.

5. You have to live in your own fairy tail because life is to much for me, I'll go crazy if I don't live in my own pretend world away from real life.

6. You'll never understand what it's like to have ADD or ADHD, our brains work in an autistic way... not a normal way like yours.

7. I just want you to except me and understand my ADD/ADHD doesn't define who I really am on the inside.

8. Please keep researching on ADD and ADHD so that you understand me and help the both of us with this.

9. Don't treat me like a child, but treat me like a child because my ADD/ADHD has all the control over my brain.

10. Remember you're in a relationship with my ADD/ADHD not who I am at my core. Remember who I am at my core.

11. I hide away because I feel safe from the world that has always been against me and corrected me. I don't like being corrected because it reminds me of all the things I can't ever get right, and that is frustrating because it reminds me that my ADD/ADHD controls everything about my life.


12. If I am trying, at least I am trying instead of not willing to do nothing. My behaviors are my ADD/ADHD, not me, remember you're in love with me, but in a relationship with ADD/ADHD self.

13. Please don't ever give up on me or us. I hate that I have ADD/ADHD.

14. Making me daily schedules and walking me by  my hand is helpful. But it can also make me feel like a child too. Depending my mood is depending on the reaction to it that you'll get.

15. I want total control of everything in our lives because it is the only way I feel I have any control at all. My ADD/ADHD has utterly full control over me and that is how I feel better about myself.

16. What ADHD Feels Like. IT MAKES ME FEEL LIKE MY BRAIN IS ALWAYS IN CONTROL. By: adhdcollective. Click here to read more.

17. ADD/ADHD Taming Your Inner Control Freak. Click here to read.

18. ADD/ADHD Makes Me Feel Powerless. By: Jenna Dodson
 Click here to read more.

19. My thoughts are always there, they hoard up my brain 24/7.

20. There are many things that they share. But we shall stop here. Please feel free to leave your comment below if you want to add your story.















ADD/ADHD EFFECTS ON MARRIAGE. Tips for increasing empathy in your relationship.
Study up on ADD & ADHD. You can never do enough scouring.

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Monday, January 28, 2019

When I learned about ADD/ADHD & GHOSTING


I was never not a believer in ADD/ADHD, but I did always think and feel it was always used as a crutch for those who have it. It wasn't until around our 1st anniversary when I started to truly understand it. My husband was one of the many in life who seemed to use it as a crutch. But once I learned and researched for 8 hours every day for weeks, I was able to understood that the ADD and ADHD behaviors are un-controllable. They only have a small part of control over it, the rest takes over their brain functioning, thoughts, words, action, ect. Once I learned what I have, I felt bad for thinking things about my husband  that I did before I learned about the condition.

I'd think things like; he's a lazy slob just get up and clean your messes, he's so cruel to others especially me and others even see it, what he calls clean our guests and myself refer to as a hoarded pig house, and other things. You are maybe wondering why would I feel bad about saying the truth?
Well...I feel bad because people with ADD/ADHD can't help it really. The ADD/ADHD spouses all said the same thing mine did. ADD/ADHD PARTNERS SAY: It's not that I don't want it cleaned up, I do want it clean. I just don't want to do it because my brain has a million thoughts constantly racing and my brain says I have better things to do with my time. We (non-ADD/ADHD partner) will never be able to understand this fully, but understand it can't be cured, none of the ADD or ADHD behaviors can be cured. But they can be treated and worked on. And as the Non-ADD/ADHD partner we have things on our part we can do too, to break the cycles it brings into our marriage that makes us respond back the way that we do. Just like the rest of us non-ADD/ADHD partners all say... my spouse and I always fight about the same thing over and over, but even to my spouse who has the ADD/ADHD is the same as yours and doesn't always notice this. Remember, your partner has bad memory, so be nice.


I also learned that it was more then just my ADD/ADHD partner who ghosts me. That all Non-ADD/ADHD partners suffer from all kinds of forms of their ADD/ADHD spouse GOHSTING THEM.


If your not familiar with what ghosting is, click HERE to read, By: 
Susan McQuillan, MS, RDN








Have you ever watched 50 first dates,  with Adam Sandler ?
The movie is about how Henry sets his heart on romancing Lucy & she has short-term memory loss; so she can't remember anything that happened the day before. So every morning he has to swoop her off her feet again. Her friends and family are very protective of her so he must convince them that he's in it for love, not sex.
Well treat it like that. I do, and it has caused fights to go down by over 80%.  When I go about it like Henry did everyday minus the videos and things, my marriage had way less fights in it, no joke.
Another thing I do is; I listen to my husband to listen, not to respond. If I have comments to respond, I keep them to myself until I had time to process them to see if they are necessary to say or not. This too is what I do alongside of the 50 first dates thing.

Remember your ADD/ADHD spouse is a good person & ( THEY DON'T WANT THEIR ADD/ADHD TO DEFINE THEM). so don't let their ADD/ADHD behaviors define them. They are humans too, we all make mistakes, but most importantly...their brains aren't like ours, so be their support and guidance that your spouse needs you to be for him/her.
Life as the Non-ADD/ADHD spouse is rough, I know trust me. But except it as a gift not a curse, and the more you learn about ADD and ADHD the better you can do on your part, too.
Don't use the GIFT as a crutch or excuse. The behavior still needs to be corrected, but lay off your spouse as long as he/she is at least trying. That is all that should matter! Some say trying is not doing....but guess what?...…..trying is better then nothing, and ADD & ADHD is not curable. Get your spouse on a PROPER ADD/ADHD diet! Go the natural way with supplements, not the chemical RX's. For the sake of your spouse, the man/woman you LOVE, do them right. Do your part. If your partner sees you trying, it encourages them to try too, even to try harder. And make sure you have a support group, or an ADD/ADHD coach to help support the both of you.


Remember you made that wedding vow too.
I vow to support you, push you, inspire you, and, above all, love you, for better or worse, in sickness and health, for richer or poorer, as long as we both shall live. I take you to be my spouse. I promise to choose you every day, to love you in word and deed, to do the hard work of making now into always.






CLICK HERE TO READ: Why You Lash Out — Sometimes For No Good Reason
By: Sandy Maynard

Talks about: ADHD folks are hypersensitive to criticism, real or imagined.